There are different kinds of people you meet in your day-to-day life. Some you like & some you don't. With some you're able to develop a strong bond & you both feel good liking each other & are successful to develop a good communication. But there are some with which you're not able to match your frequency & you just dislike them for no reason, thereby getting an irksome image. But believe me, every person & every situation has some or the other reason which makes the atmosphere boring or unfavorable to have a good conversation, ultimately loosing the interest level on the listener.
I just went through different people, meeting them, talking & observing what & how they talk & came to some conclusive points which actually hatch a boring character in a person . Below mentioned are some of the traits which aboring person possess, directly or indirectly, may be all or some. Needless to say, the more of the below traits they possess, the more likely they're considered to be dull & boring:
1. Taking Zero-Interest topics:
Sometimes while in conversation, some topics are being introduced on which no one has any interest at all to talk about so the frequency is not able to match between the borer and the listener, hence creating an uninteresting atmosphere.
Sometimes while in conversation, some topics are being introduced on which no one has any interest at all to talk about so the frequency is not able to match between the borer and the listener, hence creating an uninteresting atmosphere.
2. Bragging:
A Borer usually brags & boasts about his own interests, achievements & talents without any prior demand by the listener. This creates an inferiority feeling inside the listener & he starts disliking the borer.
A Borer usually brags & boasts about his own interests, achievements & talents without any prior demand by the listener. This creates an inferiority feeling inside the listener & he starts disliking the borer.
3. Lacking basics of Humor:
Borer lacks the basics of a humor, though he tries his best in achieving that but he’s unsuccessful, somehow, in producing the level of humor the listener is expecting of.
Borer lacks the basics of a humor, though he tries his best in achieving that but he’s unsuccessful, somehow, in producing the level of humor the listener is expecting of.
4. Transferring information to the wrong person
A borer has some info’s with him and he wants to share it with the listener without inquiring about the listener’s awareness regarding that info. If the listener knows something or everything or more than that regarding the stuffs he’s listening to & what the borer is sharing……. Damn! It’s all gone! The moment the borer starts narrating his story, the listener starts saying to himself: “Oh man! He doesn’t know I know all these things why is he telling me.” Some listeners expresses regarding their knowledge on the info on the spot only letting the borer know that he’s already aware of the things the borer is telling, depending on how the two are free towards each other.
A borer has some info’s with him and he wants to share it with the listener without inquiring about the listener’s awareness regarding that info. If the listener knows something or everything or more than that regarding the stuffs he’s listening to & what the borer is sharing……. Damn! It’s all gone! The moment the borer starts narrating his story, the listener starts saying to himself: “Oh man! He doesn’t know I know all these things why is he telling me.” Some listeners expresses regarding their knowledge on the info on the spot only letting the borer know that he’s already aware of the things the borer is telling, depending on how the two are free towards each other.
5. Low interest level towards the listener:
Borers are really a bad listeners & that’s why they ARE borers and not listeners. They hardly have interest on what the other person is saying and are inattentive while they are communicating with them regarding their matters. They always try to end up the other person's lines so that they could start it from their side. It creates a bad image on the listener as it makes his interest of talks valueless.
Borers are really a bad listeners & that’s why they ARE borers and not listeners. They hardly have interest on what the other person is saying and are inattentive while they are communicating with them regarding their matters. They always try to end up the other person's lines so that they could start it from their side. It creates a bad image on the listener as it makes his interest of talks valueless.
6. I'm always right!:
I'm always right! - This’ how a borer thinks of himself. I thinks that whatever he’s saying has some & if, in case, anyone is trying to correct him, he just denies by the fact that he’s wrong.
I'm always right! - This’ how a borer thinks of himself. I thinks that whatever he’s saying has some & if, in case, anyone is trying to correct him, he just denies by the fact that he’s wrong.
7. Repeating the topic of talk:
“Little knowledge is very dangerous”. A Borer follows it. He has a few knowledge on some of the areas & is helpless to step beyond them, so takes the topics again & again in the conversation in different ways making the whole environment stagnant & dull.
“Little knowledge is very dangerous”. A Borer follows it. He has a few knowledge on some of the areas & is helpless to step beyond them, so takes the topics again & again in the conversation in different ways making the whole environment stagnant & dull.
8. Mismatch of level of cracking jokes:
Humor usually concerns aspects of American culture, and depends on the extent to which an individual will personally find something humorous obviously depends on a host of absolute and relative variables, including, but not limited to geographical location, culture, maturity, level of education, and context. People of different sense of humor will therefore find different situations funny. If the borer’s sense of humor doesn’t matches with that of the listener’s, then nothing can stop the borer to become the jackass of the conversation.
Humor usually concerns aspects of American culture, and depends on the extent to which an individual will personally find something humorous obviously depends on a host of absolute and relative variables, including, but not limited to geographical location, culture, maturity, level of education, and context. People of different sense of humor will therefore find different situations funny. If the borer’s sense of humor doesn’t matches with that of the listener’s, then nothing can stop the borer to become the jackass of the conversation.
9. Lack of smile:
“A smile is the light in the window of your face that tells people you're at home.”
It’s rightly said that a smile creates a positive image on other’s mind. So, some or the other way, lack of smile can be one reason of being a borer.
“A smile is the light in the window of your face that tells people you're at home.”
It’s rightly said that a smile creates a positive image on other’s mind. So, some or the other way, lack of smile can be one reason of being a borer.
10. Irritating behavior:
A borer always have one or more such behaviors that makes people irritating or they just don’t like that in him. Some borers identify it & tries to rectify it & some tend to become just borers.
A borer always have one or more such behaviors that makes people irritating or they just don’t like that in him. Some borers identify it & tries to rectify it & some tend to become just borers.
So next time when you talk, take care of the above things and make an interesting presence of yours in the conversation not being called as a Borer. No one is born perfect. As there's no word like perfect. It's just a style of bringing improvement by observing others & correcting ourselves.
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